"You're an animal, aren't you?"
Separation-individuation, future integration
"An electron, for example, will register numerous other physical forces, but will
not register or respond to the meaning of literature , nor will it respond to the
sexual advances of a rabbit."
Ken Wilber, Sex, Ecology, Spirituality (2000), pp. 66-67.
Partly shared we-space, part unshared objectification
"We need agreement. Shall we be rational, pluralistic, or Integral?"
Can this LR cooperation occur without a
LL shared we-space?
Power dimension. shared entry into power competition
Layers of relationship: Manifest: equal partners. Latent, mother-son.
Naive (Green) pluralist denies his earlier stages
Brief introduction (as this page is under construction)
In every interaction (LR), the LL shared we-space is extremely complex. In the UL, Wilber was able to analyze and synthesize voluminous information into a few common AQAL elements (no category system is exhaustive). It would take a committee to accomplish in each of the other quadrants what he achieved in the UL. For the purposes of psychology, psychotherapy, and growth work, I propose, for starters, the following dimensions:
Size: Dyad, small group, large group
States: Gross, subtle, causal
Layers of communication: e.g., manifest/latent> congruent, double messages
Structure-stages of relationship/stages: e.g., parent-young child (incl. parenting stages); new
vs. old marriage, etc.
Implicit and explicit norms within defined situations
Roles, implicit and explicitly agreed upon
Type of context; type of situation:
Sphere of operations (LL): home, school, work, institutions, etc.
Communicative context, incl. linguistic, para-verbal, nonverbal
Relationship type: friendship, romantic, married, parent-child, multi-generational, corporate
Intermeshing styles (e.g., parenting style + child influence; leadership style + group influence)
Complexity of commonality (a dog chewing a book recognizes it as a thing, in common with the
person trying to remove it from the dog)
Intimacy: e.g., how "richly cross-joined", enmeshment, estrangement, formality, etc.
Power dynamics: e.g., equal, hierarchical; flexible, rigid
Health: Pathology as chronic imbalance leading to degradation instead of growth
Upper quadrant influence: UL context for UR behavior and language output influencing the
we-space processes and interpersonal communications. Important for therapy: the set of all
previous experiences in a person evoked by another person (cartoon at left).
Social psychologists, sociologists, anthropologists, historians, economists, theologians would all have much to contribute to a framework which fills in the LL and LR quadrants. The end point for psychologists, the guiding context for choosing relevant elements, would only be the information that helps individuals, couples, and families to heal and grow. Information from the list above helps explain why a person may show maturity in one context and immaturity in another--health in one place and pathology in another.
All of Wilber's work on social holons needs to be fleshed out for this project, and I believe, from clinical and research experience (including my doctoral dissertation) that in every relationship, there is LL "shared we-space" and also areas in which there is NOT mutuality but areas of disconnect. As a depth therapist who also works cognitive-behaviorally, with individuals and couples/families, I must choose from a variety of possible responses to my client's words and acts. That is the essence of therapy and growth work (see Services and Case Studies).
The pictures below illustrate some of the LL quadrant dimensions in the list. Notice the time element in some. Relationships have micro and macro stages; all have beginnings, middles, and ends.